Are you a revenge procrastinator? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us are guilty of falling into this trap at some point in our lives (and probably more than once). But why do we procrastinate on getting even revenge? The answer is simple: because we fear the repercussions of our actions. Revenge is often a double-edged sword that can cut both ways.
It provides a sense of justice and closure for the person who’s been wronged, but it can also have grave consequences for everyone involved. Because of this, many people choose to postpone their vengeful intentions indefinitely.
However, delaying your plans to get revenge doesn’t mean you won’t ever follow through with them someday. Here are some reasons why you might be procrastinating on taking revenge and how to stop yourself from putting it off again.
You’re Afraid of the Consequences of Your Revenge
Revenge is a double-edged sword, as we mentioned. While it can provide closure for the person who’s been wronged, it can also land you in a lot of trouble if you aren’t careful. That’s why many people choose to delay their revenge plans indefinitely.
They fear the consequences that could come out of their actions. However, as we discussed earlier, putting off getting even revenge doesn’t mean it won’t happen someday. The longer you wait to take your revenge, the more time you give yourself to think about what might go wrong and how you might be punished for your actions.
Before long, your imagination will have taken over and will convince you that taking revenge will be much worse than it really is.
The truth is that most of us are too worried about what other people might think of our actions or too afraid to stand up for ourselves when someone wrongs us.
We end up letting our fears prevent us from getting even with those who hurt us in some way. The sooner you realize that your fear is unfounded and decide to take action anyway, the better off you’ll be in the long run.
You’re scared of the repercussions
Revenge is a dangerous game to play, and it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and make a rash decision that you’ll regret later.
Your emotions at the time will likely be clouded by anger, sadness, and even desperation. You may not think clearly enough to consider the consequences of your actions. If you’re still upset or angry, then you might not want to rush into getting your revenge.
Give yourself time to vent your emotions, calm down, and think rationally about what happened. Calm, rational thoughts are much less likely to land you in hot water.
The person you want to get revenge on is your friend
What if you want to get revenge on a friend? It might seem like the worst possible person to get revenge on. But actually, it’s probably one of the most difficult relationships to end. Because you have a history of friendship with this person, getting revenge on them will probably only cause more pain and damage.
It’s very unlikely that your friend will be able to reconcile what happened with you and go back to being a great friend. Instead, you might ruin the relationship completely.
This will likely leave you with a sense of guilt and regret, and it could even affect your mental health. It’s best to avoid getting revenge on a friend.
You don’t want to get revenge because you don’t want to be a bad person
Some people are just not interested in getting revenge. They have strong morals and values, and they don’t want to stoop down to the level of the person who hurt them.
They might also fear that if they act on their desire for revenge, it could make them into a bad person. If you feel this way, then you might be able to avoid getting revenge by talking about your feelings with someone you trust or seeing a therapist.
They can help you figure out how best to deal with the situation and how to move forward in a positive way.
You still hold onto hope that the situation will resolve itself
Sometimes people do not want revenge because they still see a chance of reconciliation with the person who wronged them. You might believe that if you just give it some time, then things will work themselves out and your relationship will go back to normal again.
If this is what’s holding you back from seeking revenge, then it may be time for some tough love. You have probably already given this person more time than they deserve and allowed them more opportunities than they deserve – so why not take action now? No matter how much hope you have for reconciliation, there is no guarantee that it will happen – especially if your desire for revenge has gone unchecked so far!
You’re worried about being caught and punished
There’s always a chance that the person you’re seeking revenge against will find out about it somehow. You might word your text or email too strongly, send it to the wrong person, or somehow get caught and punished. It’s easy to imagine all the different ways that your plan could go wrong, and it could make you feel too nervous to go through with it. However, it’s important to remember that getting revenge isn’t usually illegal.
Plus, if you’re being sneaky about it, you’re much less likely to get caught. If you’re still worried about getting caught, there are a few things you can do to minimize your chances of getting caught. Start by deleting any evidence of your plans and emails, and don’t tell anyone what you’re up to.
If you’re worried that someone will find out about your plans and then get caught, you can try to make sure that they don’t. Some things you could do include:
Don’t let anyone know that you were planning to kill them. If they were involved in the plan, they probably won’t want to be caught if they discover it. If they don’t think it’s a bad idea to tell people about it, then don’t tell them.
It would ruin your relationship with the person
Getting revenge on the wrong person could cause irreparable damage to your relationship with the person you care about the most—your significant other. If you’re angry with your significant other but you don’t have a legitimate reason for your vengeful actions, you’re probably just looking for an excuse to break up with them.
If you’re dating someone who cheats or is abusive towards you, then by all means you should leave the relationship and get revenge on that person. However, if you’re just mad at your S.O. for something petty, you should definitely not get revenge.
Instead, try to talk to them about what’s bothering you and how you feel. You might be surprised by how easily you can solve the problem and move on.
If you’re going to get revenge, then you have to do it right. If you have to resort to violence because you’re punishing yourself for something that happened in the past, then it’s probably not worth the trouble.
There are plenty of other behaviours that are just as bad as wrong and should never be rewarded with a slap on the wrist or a small fine.
The Fear of Repercussion Is Why People Procrastinate on Revenge.
Revenge is often a complicated and messy situation that you might not want to get yourself involved with.
It’s important to think about the reasons why you’re procrastinating on your vengeful plans and address any underlying issues that might be holding you back.
Once you’ve calmed down, you can start to consider more rationally whether you really want to get revenge on the person who wronged you.
You can also talk to someone you trust about it. If you decide to go through with your plans to get revenge, be careful not to cross any lines.
More resource: How to Break Up With Your Therapist and Move On with Your Life
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